I'm glad you know about the Transactional Interpretation. I found it several years after I began to ponder these ideas about the speed of light being an effective instantaneity and was surprised by the striking similarities. Viewing the absorption event as an active and integral part of any transaction is key.

Since then, I've recommended her amazing book "Understanding Our Unseen Reality" in several comments and on my profile:

https://quantumwormholes.medium.com/about